I’m 43, single, and childless.
And I’m just now realizing why no relationship has ever worked for me.
Let me say this part clearly—because I know some of you are already bracing:
I did the work.
Therapy.
Books.
Journaling.
Meditation.
Manifestation.
I could tell you what a secure attachment should look like.
I could spot red flags from a mile away.
I knew better.
And yet…I kept ending up in the same kinds of relationships.
The ones that left me confused.
Exhausted.
Questioning myself.
Here’s the truth I wish someone had told me sooner:
Most healing work teaches you how to spot the red flags…but not how to stop running toward them anyway.
Awareness helps.
Insight matters.
But knowing is not the same thing as breaking a pattern.
And you can’t break what you don’t actually understand.
What finally cracked things open for me was realizing this:
The love I kept attracting wasn’t random.
It was the only kind of love my body knew how to feel safe in.
Disruptive.
Chaotic.
Inconsistent.
Unhealed.
That wasn’t a personal failure.
That was conditioning.
It lived in my nervous system.
In my reactions.
In the relationship dynamics I watched growing up.
To truly break the cycle, I had to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
And start asking, “What pattern am I in—and where did it come from?”
Because what I was carrying wasn’t just my story.
It was a generational love story that had been passed down—not because it was healthy, but because it was familiar.
And once I saw that? Everything shifted.
That’s why I created something new…
not another checklist, not another “fix yourself” framework.
✨ The Relationship Pattern Quiz is officially live. ✨
This quiz will help you uncover:
The survival-based relationship pattern you keep repeating
The generational wound driving it beneath the surface
And the core truth you need to integrate to finally choose something different—in love and in life
This isn’t about blame.
It’s not about shame.
It’s about getting to the root.
Because your healing doesn’t start with trying harder.
It starts with understanding what your body learned to survive.
If this email hit something tender in you…
If you’ve done the work but still feel stuck in the same cycles…You’re not broken. You’re patterned. And patterns can be interrupted.
Your healing starts at the root.
Take the quiz and comment your results in this email…I’d love to hear what comes up for you.
With love,
Dr. Jasmine The Queen of Reinvention
Founder of The Courage Crew | Spiritual Neuroscientist