If you grew up watching people stay in survival-based relationships…

You might still be living one even if it looks different on the outside.

And before you tense up, let me say this clearly: You’re not broken. You’re not failing at healing. You’re likely in a cycle.
And the cycle isn’t yours, it’s inherited.

If you grew up seeing:

Those experiences didn’t just shape your beliefs. They shaped your nervous system. They taught your body what love is supposed to feel like.

Generational wounds are deep emotional and relational patterns passed down through:

They’re not about blaming your parents or your past.

They’re about recognizing that survival gets passed down just as easily as love.

Here are four of the most common generational wounds I see keeping women stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns — even after years of therapy, journaling, and self-work.

You learned to disappear to keep the peace. To not ask for too much.
To make yourself smaller so you wouldn’t be rejected.

Pattern:
“If I have no needs, I won’t be abandoned.”

This often shows up as over-accommodating, people-pleasing, and staying in relationships where your needs are consistently unmet.

Love was something you earned.

Through success. Through sacrifice. Through being the “good one” or the “strong one.” You learned that being valuable meant doing more.

Pattern:
“If I do enough, they’ll choose me.”

This wound fuels burnout, resentment, and relationships where you give far more than you receive.

You watched love become conditional.

Speaking up created conflict. Conflict felt dangerous. So you learned to stay quiet.
To be easy and not ask for more.

Pattern:
“If I stay quiet, I won’t be hurt.”

This often shows up as suppressed needs, swallowed truth, and emotional distance masked as “being chill.

You were the strong one. The fixer. The one who handled everything.

So now, trusting others feels risky. You keep people at arm’s length, even when you want closeness.

Pattern:
“If I do it all myself, I won’t be disappointed.”

This wound often blocks intimacy, support, and ease — even in otherwise healthy connections.

These wounds are not your fault. But they are your responsibility to heal.

Because until you name the wound, you’ll keep reenacting the pattern — in love, in work, and in how you treat yourself.

Awareness isn’t the end of healing. It’s the beginning.

If this email is hitting close to home, I created something to help you go deeper.

The Relationship Pattern Quiz will help you uncover:

This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about interrupting what never should’ve been passed down to you.

It’s time to go from stuck → self-trusting → sovereign.

This is the beginning of the legacy-breaking work.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

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With love,

Dr. Jasmine The Queen of Reinvention

Founder of The Courage Crew | Spiritual Neuroscientist